Sometimes the healing hurts more than the wound. The healing part makes you face the music. Before you can move on the pain needs to be addressed and acknowledged. You can try to ignore it all you want, but ignoring a serious injury only makes it worse. You bottle up all those feelings, making you feel like you want to explode at times. And sometimes you just might and direct it towards the wrong person.
During our lifetime there are so many hardships that arise: heartbreak, illness, injury, death, abandonment just to name a few. Every hurt is personal even if you share similar experiences as others. Others may try to help and give the regular “we understand” No they don’t. Sometimes we resent others for even trying.
Whether you knew the situation was going to happen or you may have been blindsided it hurts just the same, leaving you devastated and asking “why me!”
So, what do you do after you’ve been emotionally hurt? You can try to dodge it, but eventually you have to face it to heal. Ways you can support your healing process are:
1. Acknowledge your pain
If you try to avoid it the pain only increases. You must go through grief to heal. Don’t run from it. Put time aside to allow yourself to grieve. Time and patience are key to recovery. Surround yourself with friends who understand that.
2. Reach Out
Do not go long periods of isolation. It is very unhealthy. Reach out to friends or family you can trust, find support groups, pray, meditate, listen to music, read the Bible. Whatever gives you a peace of mind.
3. Take a break
Everyone finds relief in different ways but it is essential to take a break from your pain. Do something that will allow you to escape even for a few moments. Such as, walking, reading, writing, dancing. The pain may still be there afterwards, but at least you can get some kind of reprieve from your hurt.
4. Learn from it
Recovering from an emotional trauma or heartbreak makes you stronger, wiser, and more resilient. Having the attitude of learning will help you discover value in the experience.
5. Move on
Do not allow suffering to define you,shape you, or rob you from living. After you give yourself time to grieve and mourn, after you reach out to others for support and make space for your recovery. Make the decision to not let the emotional pain hold you back. Instead, let it direct you to a new path.
I hope these tips can help in aiding your healing. Remember, even on the tough days, do not give up! Allow yourself to feel what your feeling, then release it. Each day is a new day to begin again.
“Weeping may endure for the night, but joy comes in the morning.” ~Psalm 30:5