It’s very important to begin healing within yourself so you do not project your own hurt onto others. You know the saying “hurt people, hurt people.” This couldn’t be more true. Sometimes we intentionally hurt others without realizing that it’s our past hurts that we are projecting onto them. You have to come to a great realization about what it is that is exactly hurting you so that you do not project them onto others.
It takes a lot of commitment and dedication to begin the healing process but if you stick to it I promise you, you will gain victory on the other side. and things that used to bother you will no longer bother you and you will be at complete peace. That’s not to say that an incident might not come up and you’re triggered or remember something bad that happened to you but you just have to remember that that’s not what’s going on now and you can change your reaction to the situation. Meaning sure you might cry for an hour but you’re not going to be stuck for days in bed like you used to (just an example). and that’s okay if you have to cry for an hour let yourself cry for an hour but just know that everything is fine and again you are not in that situation anymore.
Now if you are stuck in a situation where there are issues constantly going on then you need to ask yourself if you need to remove yourself from the situation or find out a way to be able to handle the situation peacefully. If you need to seek the advice from a professional then that’s okay. sometimes it’s good to have somebody else involved to give you an outside opinion because you might not be looking at all the facts from the whole perspective.
Either way it’s essential to begin and maintain the process of healing. Choose yourself. Understand though that is a process. It takes time and no one person is the same. What works for one person might not work for the other. Just fine what works for you and do your best to keep at it everyday. Don’t beat yourself up if you have a bad day it happens to us all. Just know that it is not the end and tomorrow is always a new day and a new chance to start again. Be encouraged.